Norman and Graham In 1963, a young Dr. Norman Posner had just finished his residency in OB/GYN in New York City. Coincidently, that summer, 21 year old Graham Farrell was in the city for the summer before moving on to Yale for a master's degree in music. A mutual friend introduced them and a passionate romance began. For the rest of the summer, they explored the pleasures of the city. But as fall approached, Yale beckoned. They continued their romance long distance between Connecticut and New York for two years but it was "a difficult arrangement." In spite of their love for each other, in 1965, they separated. Norman went to Iowa City, Iowa in 1966 for some post-graduate training, and when he returned to New York in 1968 he met Charles Baker, with whom he formed a life partnership that lasted 40 years. In later years, Charles developed a form of Alzheimer's Disease. Norman cared for him as much as possible before moving him to a nursing home where he died in January of 2008. His ashes are now buried on the estate of the historic home they purchased in 1975 near Hudson, New York. During our photo session, we placed a picture of Norman and Charles in the background on a table so that he would be included too. A 40 year relationship is no small feat and Graham respects that and honors the love and memories that Norman has for his former partner. In the portrait of Norman and Graham, we are, in a sense, celebrating two long-term relationships. Just prior to Charles's death, in December of 2007, Norman received a long letter from Graham, who was living in St. Paul, Minnesota and was about to undergo open-heart surgery. Graham wrote to Norman and to others who were important to him as he looked back on his life. With the complications of Charles's illness filling his life, Norman put the letter aside on his desk. Six months later, in July of 2008, he called to thank Graham for such a thoughtful letter. No answer. He left a message suggesting that if Graham were ever in New York, he should contact him. Graham had been away, but when he returned to St. Paul and heard the message, he immediately made a reservation to fly east. Meeting Graham at the Albany Airport was a little uncertain. Norman didn't recognize him as he came down the escalator until he called out. The car ride back to Hudson Bush Farm was a little strained at first, and Norman missed his usual route and had to take an alternate. But when they arrived at the house and pulled into the garage, before they even got out of the car they fell into each other's arms. Norman says he felt what he had felt 47 years before, when they first met, and, thankfully, the feeling was mutual. A wonderful weekend of renewal, remembrance and love followed, and it was very clear they both wanted to be together for the rest of their lives. Graham, of course, had to go back to St. Paul, but they were in constant contact and traveled back and forth. As time went on, they decided to make their partnership legal and Iowa City provided the perfect spot. Iowa, where Norman had done his post-graduate work, was just south of Minnesota and had just passed a same-sex marriage law. Graham and Norman got their marriage license on Norman's birthday, July 28th, and after the required three-day waiting period, were married on Graham's birthday, July 31st. A year later, with Graham now living in New York with Norman, they celebrated their marriage with friends and relatives on the lawn of Hudson Bush Farm, not far from the resting place of Charles. Norman and Graham have a circuitous route to their long term relationship but it is proof positive that their love was so real that it could withstand a 40 year test of time.